H2B: "So how many of our family members should I expect at the wedding?Personally, I think his dad was only half joking about the no friends part.
DAD: "At least 150, probably more like 175, maybe up to 200."
H2B: "Wow. We have such a big family."
DAD: "Yep, and you have to invite everybody or you're gonna hurt their feelings."
H2B: "... yikes. wow this is gonna cost a lot"
DAD: "Looks like you're not gonna be able to invite any friends. haha."
H2B: "Looks like it."
Up to 200 people! What a huge family huh? Despite being the size of a small army, they are surprisingly close knit. Most live in the SF Bay Area so they have gatherings once a month And for those that don't live close by, they communicate through the family website, family email newsletter, and of course facebook. According to the H2B, not inviting everyone is NOT an option. He even got a little Groomzilla on me when I mentioned trimming 3rd cousins from the guest list.
With so many guest to accommodate, no wonder most of his cousins have eloped or flown far far away when it was time for them to get married. And honestly, it seems like a good idea sometimes. One of his cousin even gave 2 weeks notice for his wedding, but despite being last minute a lot of people still showed up.
And what about my family's side? I have WAY less. I plan to send my invites out to about 60 family members, but most of them I either haven't met or live on the east coast. I'm realistically expecting about 30 of them to show up. What a lopsided guest list huh?
I'm happy to become a part of his HUGE family because they are a fun loving happy bunch, but wow its a lot of mouths to feed. No such thing as a small wedding for me.
Sigh. Hope I can make this happen.
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I'm the one with the large family in our case. My dad has 8 siblings! Just taking into account aunts, uncles, and first cousins, there are about 56 people just from my side. Thankfully FH only has about half of that!
I have the SAME situation... FI's family is huge and is all on the east coast. My family is much, much smaller and live about 3k miles either east or west of us... so they have to travel great distance regardless.
The severe lopsidedness really bothers me, so we have decided to do a semi DW in FL.... to make sure EVERYONE has to get on a plane :)
Since there is no way that we can afford to feed all of FI family, we are allowing the parents to invite the same number of individuals. If FMIL has a problem picking people, trust me I won't !! HAHA
I have been dating FI since 2002, and there are some members I have met once or never... so those people won't be invited. And we'll just move down the list using logic to eliminate people.
My family has so many people that will come in (My dad has 4 brothers who all have families).
My FI on the other hand? He is 1 of six kids, but they have no extended family, except for maybe 1 uncle. It'll be crazy.
Me too, me too! It's really frustrating to me sometimes because I have a huge family too that is not close at all, so I just don't get it! It's amazing how much it adds to your budget.
I'm the one with the huge Filipino family :) and my fiance is in your shoes. He's been very understanding. It is a struggle to figure out how to make it all affordable though and still the wedding of our dreams, especially in the bay area!
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